So from the beginning, i get asked by many people. Why would you choose a Career over your kids! I could never do that! Well....i love mine just as much! ( its like me telling you, that you choose one child over another, i think we give everyone 100%, to our ability)
Others said but how can you let someone else, raise your child, dont you feel guilty? Well darn! No i dont, cos i raise my own children as much as anyone else, i do their school pickups and drops, PTA visits, homework, bedtime rituals, screaming for getting them to eat, and good bye huggies. No one raises my kids, but me.
Let me start, by mentioning, that i think i have it all. Marriage, two beautiful boys, a fabulous career, a body to the envy of every woman ( ok every mom) and a walking desire of every man, Now how hard is it to be this Super-Women/Mom.
To people, it seems pretty easy, this fabulous girl who walks out of the house in a perfect designer suit, holding a Gucci bag, and Versace sunglasses. She enters her luxury car and drives away to work. After performing her perfect duties, she leaves her work to come back home to two perfect kids and a plush house, and ....blah blah blah.
Well yeah, some of that is true, and some of it looks true to outsiders but is this how perfect it is?
What we dont take into account is every second of being a Superwoman is enveloped by the needs and wants of others, whether its the husbands dinner, or the kids homework, or the bosses deadlines submissions. The happy -home and work-perfect balance, is more like throwing several basketballs with just two hands, and yet ensuring they all land in the loops perfectly. At the SAME TIME. Easy? Ermmmmm
I have seen it all since ive had my first child and i have continued working as a conscious decision. A torn leggings, on the day of my most important meeting, an important conference call right in the middle of my sons parent teachers meeting, a day when i walk out of house screaming at the kids, in despair, only to dress one up in two different socks. How bad can that get? Well at least he wasnt wearing two different shoes, Well even that would be cute! Look on the bright side, they say...
Earning the title of Supermom, means giving up personal time, barely any leisure, hairstyles supporting NO BLOW DRIES, and convincing people that nail polish isnt good for health ( apparently), so i prefer keeping my nails clean ( basically no time for manicures!) Sighhh.
It also means taking a client call and pretending to listen intently to the client, while the baby smudges Vaseline all over his hair, and it also means recieving 35 emergency missed calls from Home, during a clients round table conference...only to find out the 7 year olds emergency was finding out who changed the Ipad Password! Grrrrrrrr
NO! Being a working woman/best mommy/ ok ok wife, doesnt come easy! It takes willpower, perseverance, guts!
But, in the end, its so worth it. the Respect of passers by, being the idol for little girls who want to be career woman, being the idol for your own kids, with your personal intellect and knowledge, and being looked at by your husband, proudly so. I wouldnt have it any other way :)
So to those woman who do want to be the Jack of all Trades, and who want to feel proud of that Gucci, just because they earned it themselves, hats off ladies, we are in this together!
Along the way, there will be some late project submissions, some even forgotten! There may be days you wake up and send your son to school in a regular uniform on Halloween, and some days when you walk out of the house, looking like a zombie, cos you forgot your own makeup rituals, while rushing out with the kids, cos you are already 20 minutes late for every possible thing on your agenda for the day!
So Ladies, Pull up those torn leggings, proudly, Force that skirt button shut ( cos you have no time for working out), and walk into that office proudly. You are one of a kind. And your kids, will be OH SO PROUD! Just wait and watch..
You are a Wonder-Woman, and the most Fabulous Mommy!